Welcome to Meet a Dad! Here is where we like to feature an at home dad from within our community, through interviews conducted by Mike Andrews
Been awhile since I have been able to get these out but we all have been busy this summer. Now that it is almost over and the convention is right around the corner, it’s time to get back to work!
Today we have an interview with Ray McCoy from Daddy’s Nook! Ray is an at home dad in Oklahoma and has been home with his kids for a year and a half now.
He is a staple in most of the SAHD groups that I am a part of and I know I can always count on him to brighten my day or offer some good advice.
How many kids do you have and what are their ages?
I have two wonderful kids; a 2 year old boy and a girl 7 year old girl
Why did you become a stay at home dad?
I have had a problem with my back for the past 12 years. Over a year ago, after being in and out of the E.R. and due to it putting me out of work for over a week me and the wife decided it would be better for me to be the stay at home parent than to keep working. Which would have most likely put me in a wheelchair.
Other than spending time with your kids, what do you like about being an at home parent?
This is a hard one, even after about a year I still kinda feel out of place and that I should be out “putting the bread on the table.” But other than spending time with the kids I would have to say. It is a lot more relaxing than when I had someone breathing down my throat about getting a job complete or chewing me out about someone else’s mistake.
What do you like least?
Having to be the “Authority” figure all the time. It really sucks having to lay down the law with the kids 24/7.
What is your normal daily routine like?
LOL! Turn the alarm off at 6am, fall back asleep and get up when the alarm turns on at 6:15. Get our daughter off to school an hour later. Then I get some down time where I can play on the computer or do what I want until the boy wakes up. About a hour or two later, make him some breakfast, clean up all the breakfast dishes do some other minor cleaning, play with the boy for a little while and put him down for a nap about noon. which gives me another hour or an hour and a half of peace and quiet. Get the girl off the school bus, help her with homework while trying to contain the chaos that is a toddler. cook dinner about 5 or 6, play with the kids and get baths in before 8. Put the kids in bed about 9 and pray I don’t have to fight with them to stay in bed. Enjoy some time with my wife and pass out in bed anywhere between 10:30 and midnight.
If you were to change one thing about yourself as a dad, what would it be?
I would get rid of my back problems so I would be able to rough house with the kids more and play on the floor without being in as much pain.
What do you like to do in your spare time?
I do a little bit of Blogging (at daddysnook.blogspot.com) but I also like to do some woodworking, reading, photography, and when I was younger I would play paintball whenever I could get the chance.
What advice would you give a new At Home Dad?
Go with the flow is the best advice I can give. Though your environment doesn’t change much, everyday is gonna be different. It is a damn hard job but the rewards are beyond measure.
What does your spouse/partner do?
She works at a grocery store in the frozen and dairy department.
What is your best memory of your father?
For a project in school I had to build a castle. So we went to white castle and got like 50 burgers. Then used the boxes the burgers came in to build my castle. Which I ended up getting an A on.
The worst? How did this effect the way you parent your kids?
Definitely the switch! I don’t spank my kids or raise my hand to them, when I get to the point I feel I may I will remove myself from the area and calm down.
What has your experience been as far as how others see your role as an At Home Dad?
So far so good. I haven’t had any negative experiences with anyone, I just hope it stays that way.
What cartoon character are you and why?
I can’t answer this question… So I asked the wife, her response was that I am Quincy from Little Einstein’s, She said that whenever the kids discover something new I display an excitement that reminds her of Quincy saying “I can not believe it!” and I am always tricking them into learning things.
Who is the better cook in your home? What is your best meal to cook?
That’s hard we are both damn good. My best would probably be Taco casserole. I rock at that!
Are there any “Dad Groups” in your area that you participate in? If not, what do you do to connect with other parents?
No unfortunately. I have been considering starting one, but I don’t think there are very many stay at home dads in my area. To connect with other’s I primarily use facebook. My favorite group is a private one on Facebook that has over 600 members.
Favorite kid’s book growing up?
Where the Wild Things Are!
What is your least favorite kid’s show?
Spongebob Squarepants! Enough said!
What was your best moment as a father?
Every time the kids hug me and kiss me there is no better feeling in the world.
What was your scariest?
At the grocery store, I thought our daughter was right behind me and she wasn’t. She had walked off with momma and no one had said anything to me.
What do you want your legacy to be? How do you want you kids to remember you?
That’s a no-brainer, I want them to remember me as the best dad in the world and hopefully I can live up to that title at least in their eyes.