Peeing in front of your daughters

My daughter is not yet at an age where I can begin potty training, but she loves to explore the world. As a man, I proudly pee standing up any time the chance arrives (hands on hips and everything), but lately my daughter really seems like she wants to know what happens in the the ol' bathroom. She's really not old enough yet where I feel like I can close the door while peeing, but at the same time I don't really think it's appropriate for her to try to get a better view of the process either.

Don't know of a better way to ask this, so here goes:
1) Would it screw up potty training if my daughter sees me standing while I pee?
2) Should I just sit down when I pee (I already do a "woman's job" by taking care of the kids, right?? (Just kidding) Would that help her learn about how she should pee?
3) At what age are you just a perv if you pee in front of your kids anyway?

Don't Worry

dkremers_1965's picture

I don't think you need to worry about your daughter seeing you pee since she sounds like she is still fairly young and not even potty training yet. Here are my answers to your questions: 1. Why would her seeing you stand screw up potty training? Most boys don't stand at first for potty training and that doesn't stop them from standing later when they can finally aim (or should be able to, but that's a completely different topic for discussion!). Both my boys when they were young were in the bathroom when mom was in there and they still stand. Also, my daughter often was in when I was using the bathroom. Sure she had questions when she started potty training why she couldn't stand like daddy. We told her it was because she was a girl and girls needed to sit when they use the potty. 2. Again, why would you sit if you are only peeing? She may question once or twice, but will quickly figure out that girls have to sit and she is a girl. 3. I don't think there is any set age. I still pee in front of my boys sometimes because they are boys and are sometimes in the bathroom when I am. My daughter is now 7 and I feel too old for me to be doing that anymore in front of her. For everyone, this age may be different. I stopped letting her in the bathroom when I was using it when she was starting to really ask about why daddy was different than her (not just the general questions). So, there is my advice for you. Take it for what it's worth. I don't think you need to sit or be worried about your daughter. When it's time for her to potty train, she'll learn to use the bathroom the way a girl does.

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My daughter

matt.redsquirrel's picture

is a 2 year old and has seen me pee just about every time I've had to go. I've gotten rather agile in my peeing technique, since curiosity does not end with simply looking. She understands the difference between boys and girls (mostly) and for the most part that understanding came through exposure and talking about it...a lot. Communication is not done just through words. You gotta show your kids what's going on also. I think you'll warp your kids more by making them think that bathroom behavior is some secret, weird thing. A wise man (I.P. Freely) once said, "I pee freely."

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No big deal

ticktock's picture

Kids don't think like we do. You won't screw them up. If anything, it will help them learn that people go pee pee in the potty, and that is a great thing to get into their heads early.

Don't encourage her to come check it out and don't lock the door either.

We taught our daughter the word "privacy" when she would charge in during a dump (a good occasion to draw the line of appropriateness). Now, she is sitting on the potty on her own and demanding privacy. I don't know if that's a good thing or not, but it's cute.

It's cute

matt.redsquirrel's picture

My daughter also demands privacy if she's dropping a deuce. We didn't teach her that, so I'm not sure how she came up with it. It is cute, and nice to not have to stand there talking to her while she's taking care of business.

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"I've gotten rather agile in

RenoDad's picture

"I've gotten rather agile in my peeing technique, since curiosity does not end with simply looking."

That is a two-step I'm getting familiar with! No touching the pee!

Greg

In the dog training world

matt.redsquirrel's picture

it's called a body block. It's good for dogs, cats, kids trying to grab your pee, etc.

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Stand and fire away......

CiaAlum92's picture

Until you have to do the NO PEE PEE Bogey. Then sit like a good person. Besides when he/she brings you a book you can read it when your sitting?

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