is at all a bad -- in many situations it is the right thing to do. But his reasons for doing so are just shite.

I want to believe he had his tongue firmly planted in his cheek while writing this, but his comments say otherwise. Rather pathetic.

That guy started back peddling as soon as the first few comments hit, good for him.
As parents we hopefully find ourselves in different stages and places as time goes by, means we're growing.

Everyone's situation is different. However if you like the finer things in life then why have two incomes one of which is going stait to chiald care? My wife and I aren't wanting becasue we save her income and spend appropreatly. (In fact I'm having a Spa day next week wich ain't cheep but we put away for it.) I have firends with twins in chiald care because they have no choice. She is a NYC teacher so she has faboo benafits and he is a IT contractor so he rakes it in, but they need both to get by, I don't judge them anymore than most of the folks I know in my part of Brooklyn who take turns working freelance gigs.

I aslo have fiiends who would be better of is he didn't work. Their taxes aer higher, they get no deduction becuause she has two dependants and his whole salary goes to daycare. SWTF?

It bothers me sometimes when parents start prattling on about "their life" I have to admit. My life in on hold becasue I was given the greatest gift of all time a pefect healthy chilad that I love and adore. But, I gave up my backpacking , sold my rifles, stiopped writting porgects that I knew I wouldn't have time to finish, and made my life so my daughter would never want for effection. I'm doubtfull that my DNA is enough to raise my kid given my DNA.

Be Seeing You.

My wife has an awesome career, which she is good at...
If I had kept working, my job would literally pay for daycare and the gas to get there and back.
So now we'd still have the same money, plus pay MORE taxes, and NEITHER of us would ever see the kids.
It wasn't much of a decision

Before I stayed home my wife and I fought about the kids who'd raise them how much time we'd have with them etc it go to the point where i was wondering how do I save my marriage and in reality it was just easily fixed by staying home. I am lucky though that i've been able to bring in some money through the internet and work while home part time. For all you dads even selling stuff on ebay can bring in some extra $ for you we all have some kind of hobby or know about one thing or another prices/popularity etc so check out your local flea markets/thrift stores/swap meets and pick something up that you've seen on ebay and more important if people are bidding on them. Anyway just my thoughts on being the parent who stays home trying to help even the slightest really shows you care.