Ilive in an area of Bklyn where people own Victorian homes and live in building, like mine, wich have tow bedrooms and are spaceious. There are a lot of children in Brooklyn and in my hood inparticular so the varying age ranges somtimes casue confics. Little ones with big ones etc.

There are several long standing playgroups that are still going here in Kensinton. Most are now invite only and even though thoes women have all been here I have never been invited there. I have yet to meet another AHD dispite the whole world telling me they kno so-and-so and he would love yada yada yada. I'm feeling low. I have put so much time and energy into my new neighborhood. I have gotten some back but it's hard to see the Moms leave the playground and say, "see ya" and not invite my daughter and I to lunch with them.

Be Seeing You.

but your persistence does pay in the end. And, like Andy said: A for effort. With preschool starting soon, things do start to take off in a new direction for you and your child. New friends and a new social network. I'd encourage you to get involved with the preschool-parents organization if there is one.

For Josh, I know how you feel too. I've been there, almost in that same situation. What I did was, instead of waiting for their invitation all the time, I invited them over to our place for a bbq and to jam on our acoustics. I also mentioned to them that "hey, next time you guys get together for a jam, if you don't mind, I'd love to join you."

Since I am a friend of a friend, I am not "on their radar" per se. They didn't know I was really that interested until I called on them to play some more. Plus, none of them have kids, so they thought I would never be free to come out and jam. I asked them to never let that stop them from calling on me. And I thought that they just didn't like me or something foolish like that.

So, it was nothing like the little made up story I had in my head about why they never called on me to join them. They have a band. I respect that they have practice and gigs and all. I can't play with them all the time, but every now and then I do and it's a blast. I am glad I chose to call them on it instead of write it off. Anyway, just thought I'd share that with you.

Hang in there!

Brian