How the other half lives.

dayv27
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So my wife takes a day off today, for no reason other than to have a day off. She takes off with our 4 year old to go run some errands and to let me have a little couch time. Instead of taking the expected nap, I go outside to pull weeds in her garden for her just to do something nice.

She's gone 20 minutes and I get a phone call that she's going to be dropping our son off at home because he's "too tired and hungry and being very fussy," and she can't finish her errands with him acting the way he is.

So off I go to cook some of Kraft's blue box finest.......

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New No.2
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Ooooo

That's tight, dude.

Be Seeing You.



JonMcP
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LOL!

Ouch. Been there.



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You share what we all share.

It drives me nuts sometimes when she would "rather not" have to deal with all three boys while running errands or doing something that she wants to do. I know that she is capable, because she does it once in a while and she can do it well. It just seems like everything outside of her work time is "family time." Meaning, we do everything together, or I always have at least one of the kids with me.

I have found that "the other half" rarely takes 100%. My wife tries, but it only happens for a little while maybe every other week. The only exception is when I am out mowing the lawn. Then, she solo tackles bedtime.



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Yep

That is one reason mowing the yard and washing the cars can take me half the dang day!

Mike S
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Dayv, Be like Back pack DAD

put the kid in a backpack and through him/her a mini bagel once and a while......
Chef Kev
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JPhillip said it, therefor it is, Chef= C=Caring, H=Helpful, E=Excellent, F=Fubar



Cos
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Something to look forward to

I'm not the primary just yet to our now 1 month old but that is in the future in two months when wifey goes back to work - is this what's going to happen!

Actually I'm fully expecting it to *feel* like this happens. Right now she's taking on everything while I wrap up some business stuff before I "retire" ... I'm going into this not fooling myself that I can still work from home and take care of a kid, just not gonna happen that way. I'm taking the first block of time entirely off, zero commitments to work, and after that I'm going to have to determine my availability to work. At this point I can't see that I'll be able to pull anything more than *maybe* 2hrs a day.

I can surely see that yard work and my running addiction will be those times to get away.



JPhillip
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Smart move Cos.

Definitely going 100% at first is a good idea. It will be stressful enough without having to think about any work outside of your little one. After some time, then you can consider a little work with a lot more perspective. One other warning, though: Your situation constantly changes as your little one changes. Colic, feeding patterns and napping patterns change dramatically over the first few months and then over the first few years. You are going to have to be very flexible. You may find that you can not work at all at first, then work a few hours as the baby gets older, then back to zero work time again, then back up to 2 hrs a day. It's a roller coaster.



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Mini-bagels are awesome :}

And this weekend, my daughter's birthday party weekend, my wife took a little vacation from work. Hooray for vacation! Sleeping in, handing the baby off, taking a break from the normal routine.

Oh wait. That's what SHE did. I'm still getting up with the baby at 6:30, taking care of her meals, diapers, etc...because it didn't really occur to her that she can't go 100% on vacation if it means that I get no break in routine whatsoever.

So, here I am again, bleary eyed and tired.

http://backpackingdad.blogspot.com



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No Way!!

I'm glad to see this post here for no reason other than to know I'm not the only one who gets totally frustrated with this. Her days off are that...she can't possible deal with the kids because it's a day off. When do I get my time off? Family vacation time I have to get up and deal with the kids. Weekends, she sleeps in and I'm up taking care of kids. The only time I get time off is at the sahd convention which she has said we may not be able to afford this year (that's what she thinks...I WILL be there no matter what). I'm really glad to see I'm not alone in this frustration. Hang in there guys...convention in only about 6 or 7 months away.

Check out my ramblings on life at http://www.sahdguy.blogspot.com/



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Yeah, I make one backpacking

Yeah, I make one backpacking trip a year, meeting up with some buddies in Tennessee. I refuse to fly, because by driving I extend the 3 day, long weekend trip into a 6-8 day solo road trip.

Last year it took two grandmas and one family friend to cover the 6 days I was gone. All while the wife was taking most of those days off of work!

Last time I looked around, there weren't any grandmas here when wife is gone on business trips...



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Ya know, I need to give

Ya know, I need to give credit. Obviously, I posted that while in a bit of a momment. My wife is a good mother, she does cover a lot of time when I'm not here with out son, and she does usually let me sleep in a bit on the weekends. I get two nights a week out for hockey plus the two shifts a week I'm working. I have never recieved a call for "how do you make a bowl of Cheerioes?", but this just ticked me to no end, and that's not the first time she's done that.

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JPhillip
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Hehe...

So, you must have gotten busted, Dayv. Did she call you out on your post?



dayv27
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nope,

Nope, didn't get busted, didn't get called out. Just re-read what I had posted after I had cooled down, and thought I owed her some credit for what she does do for me.

Regardless of how often I get ticked becuase I feel I get the short end of the stick when it comes to "days off", I'm still incredibly gratefull for the opportunity that I've been given, and I want to make sure she gets the thanks that is due to her.

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Hear Hear

And ditto.

Now that we're home and my wife is back at work for a marathon-looking half-month I'm feeling a lot better about the happy-haps over the weekend.

http://backpackingdad.blogspot.com



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