My wife owns a clothing line and just recently she has decided to go through with a proposal to do a men's magazine that features all of the mens clothing. I was fine with the idea once she tod me but then she told me that some of the photos will be nude or half nude male models with only certain body parts showing. I don't like the sound of that, even though she says the magazine will not reveal anything, that certain parts will be blocked by various objects. I still don't like the sound of that. How do I get this through to my wife without sounding like I'm being negative?
Uncomfortable with this new project at my wife's job
I would explain to her how
I would explain to her how you feel about the situation. Ask her if she plans to be in the room while the photos are taken and why she has to be there. Try to relate it to you looking at nude women and see if she can understand how you would feel. She may say it is work related but there really are no good reasons to bring these type of images into your marriage (I would say at all but definitely not if it makes one of you uncomfortable). Try to help her see things from your point of view.
I wouldn't worry too much
Sebastian, if this is a pro model shoot, you typically will have a bunch of men and women standing around making adjustments on a bunch of things: lighting, camera equipment, clothing, set design, etc. It's not like it will be an intimate room with all these male models and your wife. I don't think you should worry about it, especially since you don't even know if these male models like women! Maybe you could hire a babysitter for that day and accompany your wife to the shoot if it would ease your mind.
Like Mark said...
My former career was in the ad biz. Like Mark said, if this is a pro shoot, there will be lots of people standing around. Also, if this is to be done in a pro studio, time is money, so they'll want to be outta there as quick as possible without eating up too much budget. It sounds like a pretty interesting opportunity. If there are some underlying insecurities that you still feel, then absolutely talk to her. You'd hate the feeling you'll have everyday when she leaves for work if you don't, wondering (making up crazy scenarios) what is going on while she's at work shooting these "hot" (maybe gay?) guys in her clothing.
I am sure you feel proud of her for what she's done to sell a line of men's fashion. Don't be such a...well, I'll be nice here. But if we knew eachother and were having a couple of beers at a Dad's Night Out, I'd put it a little less tender and Dr. Phil-ish, like my fellows dads have.
Look-You love her. She loves you. At this point it is just a proposal, right? Don't get in such a tizzy over it. Don't get in the way of your wife's creativity or her career and do not go to the shoot. (Sorry Mark, I think that's a bad idea.) Otherwise, if you are feeling insecure about something in your relationship, get it out there and talk about it! BE authentic WITH her. You'll be glad you did.
just my .02, plus change.
Good luck to you and to her! I hope this clothing line and ad campaign takes off!
Just Go With It and...
Reread Brian and msmithivas reply! If it's a pro shot go with the flow, if it's not, go and question them on these two guys suggestions then talk to her about it more. Good luck and don't head trip over it...
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