How many of you have heard the following from your wife: “The car needs to get waxed” or ” The lawn needs mowing” or “When are we going to get that wall painted”. At the same time as a father, you also hear: “Daddy, do this…”, “Daddy play with me!”, “Daddy, let’s ride bikes”. This dualism or work and play becomes a bit of challenge, as you become pulled in many directions.
Now don’t get me wrong, I am not saying that moms do not get this because they do. I think though (from my experience) the Honey Do List for Moms can sometimes be inherent, while some of us husbands need a bit more prodding (at least I do).
So for me I find this to be a challenge, as I work all day at a place outside of the home, and when I get home, besides being tired from the day, I know I still need to be “on” as when I walk in the door, I still need to be “on” for my kids and to give some relief to my wife who has been “on” all day with the kids….it’s not until the kids go to bed when things slow down a bit, but by then it is a bit late to do some of the honey do list items. Thus many of the honey do list items have to wait until the weekend, when I also have to fit in quality time with the kids…. Can anyone else see the cyclical nature of this!
So I guess it all comes down to balance. You have to find your balance as a husband and as a father. It is not easy, but it is a necessity. How do all of you do it? Whether you are a mom or a dad, what tricks do you employ to find this balance?
I look forward to your thoughts on this!